I was watching an old interview with Oprah Winfrey recently and she said “When someone shows you themselves the first time believe them.” I don’t know why but it stuck with me since then. So often people will pretend to be what they are not and you can see them as they truly are, but only if you want to. Even as nice as they pretend to be, the evil/dark side is there. The question is why pretend? Why not be you? I guess it’s because the true you is not pretty at all. I know a few persons like that, as a matter of fact too many persons. I don’t consider them friends because I don’t do drama as you know and that is usually too much. 😉. They’re not nice. It’s harder when they are family, but it has to be done. You can chose your friends but not your family. Sigh. 🤦🏾♀️
Some persons true selves are not admirable and a bit frightening. The cover will slip every now and again and it shows what they are truly made of and if you pretend not to see them as they really are it could come back to haunt you. The worst thing that can happen to you is when you say “you know s/he was a bitch more than once but I ignored it.” Ignore at you own peril. 🤔. Or when you say, “I never saw that side of s/he.” But you really had and you never believed that they were like that. In your mind it was a one off thing. I know it can hurt but if you don’t believe what they are and accept then you might be really in a bind. People don’t really change, circumstances show them as they really are. That why I have always heard, money doesn’t change you it just allows you to be who you have always been. If you were a bitch without money the moment you get some, world watch out, “I have arrived.” 🤦🏾♀️
What do you do when the true self is revealed? I have always been able to read people (my mother and grandmothers said it was a gift) so I would usually have them at arms length. But what about you do you still keep them close and try keeping and eye on them? Doing as the quote says, “Keep your friends close, and your enemies closer.” Or do you just cut them off?
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So true Andrea!! I have had to go through some of that more than once. I saw it but ignored it and I paid for it! On the note that people don’t change I think when someone sees themselves for who they are and accept the fact that they can do better then have that urge to change they will. But I problem is not a problem until you see it as s problem and only a few persons can really be honest with themselves. So we have to believe that they are who the show themselves to be. If they are trying to change allow them to but just be careful sometimes it’s not a genuine change. That’s my two cents. Great topic by the way!
Interesting. The thing is to just keep your eyes open and be aware.
Persons have to really want to change for it to happen. When/if they do as you said it has to be genuine or it’s a waste of time.
I agree that people show who they want you to see in order to achieve the pre planned task they have in their minds.. It’s sad that people that but it sure does happen. Even when you think someone has changed, it’s best to keep an eye out because the change can be a surface change and not core change. Not genuine at all.. Just like Audia says. Especially these street beggars they have the best lines and lyrics and unfortunately I have fallen for it a few times before. They are the best at showing and putting on a facade.
Ahh, never thought of the street beggars but they do this in order to ensure they survive. Is it similar for others?
Change has genuine and inside.