Last week Thursday was my mother’s birthday. That morning I was listening to music and the song one sweet day by Boys II Men and Mariah Carey started playing. No planning, it was just there. I smiled as it was one of her favorite songs of all time. If she heard it she just had to sing along. But there is a section in the song that says “I know you’re looking down on me from heaven”, and those words triggered something and I just cried. I can’t explain what happened. I wonder when will that pain go away. I miss her and I guess I alway will. It’s surprising that it last for such a long time. I guess it will fade one day in the future. Or maybe not. 😢. I guess one day it will be revealed to me.
I went back in my mind to the day she died. It was so surreal. How is it that our minds will do something like that so easily although we don’t usually live in the past? How does one get themselves to not do that? I am just wondering. Let me know what you experiences have been in similar circumstances. How long does it take for the pain to go? Does it ever go? Do we really want it to go or are we willing to hold on to the pain? If we are willing to let the pain go why doesn’t it just leave?
I was thinking one day that I would love to be able to talk to everyone at the same time and get feedback. I want to know if what I am doing makes sense. Let me know what you think and what to do to get it done. In the interim I will continue to write. I really want to know what you are thinking, and I know others do too. Try commenting 👍🏽, but if you are not comfortable, reach out to me via any medium. Your comments let me know how you feel and very often give me a total different perspective on the topic. 😉. And you can never tell your comment might help others.
Always remember life is for living and you must always live your best life. #lifeisforliving #liveyourbestlife.
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for years I used to cry when I hear that same song cause my classmate was shot in the head and died and I just could not get over his death but time heals all wounds today I can listen that song and not cry but just smile and say Dane I still miss you
I guess time is the healer of all. We just have to wait.
You never really stop. You actually just mourn differently and less frequently with time. There will always be triggers and moments like you described because death is the part of life that we are not wired to accept.
It is hard to accept especially when it’s someone you love. It will fade but never go. Time I guess will be the determining factor.
Wow! Earlier today I stumbled across pics from a cousin from Thanksgiving 2008; the last Thanksgiving with one of my younger sisters. I could only look at two photos as images from her last day on earth invaded my mind; tears flowing. I do not believe the pain goes away but diminishes in intensity over time. It’s a reminder that our loved one was here, relationship had, life he/she lived. A reminder to live each day in gratitude.
Time is the most important factor as per everybody. Pain will diminish over time. Live your best life.
I believe the pain dulls only to resurface at intervals … it never leaves
I lost my brother tragically in1988 and I still mourn I still cry not because of his birthday or memorial but instances trigger memories and the tears flow
I will forever miss him
Just writing this … the tears spill RIP my brother
🙏🏽 time is the important factor.