“Always forgive, but never forget.” That was what my mother taught me at a young age. When I asked her why not forget and she said so you don’t make the same mistake again. (She didn’t want me to hold on to the issue for dear life, but to remember if the need arise.”) I figured out she was right. If someone does you wrong, forgive them but ensure you don’t allow the same thing to be done to you again. Are you expecting a different result? It’s as said in a quote from an unknown source “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”
“Not forgiving is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.” They sometimes don’t know and very often don’t care. Why are you going to allow that anger and resentment to stay inside and fester? Let it go. I have always been able to do that, not certain if it was the way I was raised or my personality. It made life much easier and also made it easier to talk to the person that had offended me, if I have to. You can’t always ignore them, unfortunately. Life is filled with issues and if you hold on to all of them it will not be pretty.
That’s one of the reasons that we teach our kids to say I’m sorry and to say “it’s ok” when they are asked for forgiveness. They have to learn to ask for forgiveness and also to forgive. It makes you happier.
I know many will say it’s easier said than done but believe me it is easy to forgive. You don’t have to say anything to the person, you are forgiving in your heart. It makes the burden lighter and less stressful. Try it. It makes life more positive which is what we need to strive to achieve. Positivity is key no matter what and it keeps you stress free.
Let me know if you are able to forgive and if not why. Do you agree with my mom that you should never forget? If not why?
See you next Wednesday at 8:00 pm.
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