One day I heard my children arguing about who said what, that’s normal. This time however I had to get involved as I realize that this time was a case of miscommunication. They had not been listening to what the other was saying. My daughter thought my son had said something which he insisted he had not. My mediation got them to listen to each other and that made the difference. Matter settled.
Are we doing this as adults, listening? I mean really listen, not just hearing what the other person(s) are saying. I think what happened with my children was they were both talking at the same time and so not listening to each other. Actually it’s impossible to really listen and talk at the same time. Multitasking is not a natural thing to humans. You have to do one or the other not both. To listen means to be silent. It’s interesting to note that they have the same letters. 🤔.
Is it really that hard to listen so as to ensure that we are able to understand what the other person is saying? The need to constantly interrupt means that you won’t be able to really listen to the other person. You are just focused on what you have to say next and not what the other person is trying to get across to you. Stop and listen, you might be surprised at what you might learn. Allow others to tell you what they want you to know and believe me it can help a relationship as you get a better understanding of the person. Try it and let me know what happens. Really listen don’t just hear a part of what is said as you formulate what your answer should be. Allow the person to talk and then answer, if it’s needed. That’s what communication is about. It’s a two way street.
As you sharpen this skill let me know how it helps. I really want to know what you are thinking, and I know others do too. Try commenting 👍🏽, but if you are not comfortable, reach out to me via any medium. Your comments let me know how you feel and very often give me a total different perspective on the topic. 😉. And you can never tell your comment might help others.
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Very important…BUT:
1) Hard when people won’t get to the point
2) Hard when people are repetitive
3) Hard when it’s a simple concept and you got it from the opening lines.
I process fast, and get impatient when I get it but have to go through the mechanics of hearing the FULL story. Usually I don’t… I interrupt, confirm that what I understand is what is being said then move to solution ( or to terminate the discussion since we both got it) . Of course, it backfires sometimes, hence the need to check if I am going to jump ahead to conclusions. It’s Not my strongest point…🙈working on it!!
It’s really important. Work on it. A little bit at a time and you will get there. It takes patience and the will to do it.