“Once a man, twice a child.” I have heard the saying all my life and never really looked into it until now. I have a relative that I have become very involved in their lives beyond anything I had to do before even with my parents. My parents were not very old when they died so I never had to do a lot of what I’m doing. Dementia hadn’t kicked in for either. Trust me dementia is something that makes you feel for the one that suffers from it.

When I started taking on more and more of the functions it started slowly as I saw the need. What I realize it’s needed for some persons as they get older. The thing is this relative fought to keep hold with everybody else but I started to see the seams unraveling. You know the saying that God moves in mysterious way and basically that’s what happened. He took my hand and lead me to start working with this relative very closely. It was while helping that I thought of the quote, once a man twice a child. I am seeing this person in a totally different light from how they looked when I was growing up. I think the point of no return was when he said “I’m not a baby,” when I had started taking over. Under normal circumstances I would have thrown my hands in the air and said fine you are not and wave saying bye Felicia, but I realized it wasn’t that easy. If I didn’t help who would? Interestingly it wasn’t because no one else would help but I saw a small child and no longer a strong minded man. It was as if it happened overnight.

I started thinking about my life. Where am I now in the quote, adult or going down hill towards child. I see the bell curve and I’m thinking I am still at the pinnacle. When do we start going down hill and what happens during that time? Will we remain fully aware of all that’s happening or do we start to deteriorate mentally? What happens to you if there is no one there to help you and you don’t realize that you are deteriorating mentally? What happens if the persons that might be there mean you no good? I have heard some horror stories. But let’s not go there. Positive thoughts always.

Going back to seeing how my relative went downhill rapidly I put myself in that situation and realize I don’t want to not have things in place because I am afraid that someone might want what little I have. If you can’t trust your kids then, who can you trust? I’m just saying? Could it also be related to the relationship you have with them? Or could it be just your personality? Any way my relative was always cantankerous and now it’s even worst. I remember praying to the Lord that I don’t end up like that. As my step mom would say let me not be a bother to a soul. Aging can be …..

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